This past week we had the first call in the Ignite Your Life Summer Series. The topic was “Building Christ-Esteem” and it was a truly enlightening. We learned that Christ-esteem removes the barriers that can get in the way when we focus on self-esteem.
Yes, self-esteem is very important, but when it is mis-guided then it can become a very dangerous tool in your life. It is a wise idea to see esteem from God’s eyes and learn to build your Christ-esteem.
What is self-esteem
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Self-esteem is a term used in psychology to reflect a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, “I am competent” or “I am incompetent”) and emotions such as triumph, despair, pride and shame. A person’s self-esteem may be reflected in their behavior, such as in assertiveness, shyness, confidence or caution.
In other words self-esteem has a direct correlation with the way you feel about yourself and it can be presented in a number of ways.
Self-esteem is often related to what a person does as opposed to who she is. As women we have this bad because we value what we do more so than who we are. We want to be the perfect mom and when we are not we feel like failures. We want to always lend a hand to a cause, event, or anything that will show how much we really want to help. We end up so busy that we forget the value of being productive and that being productive means taking care of self.
What would happen if we dared to see ourselves as God does? What would happen if we took the time to search the word and build up our Christ-esteem vs our self-esteem?
Why would we want to do this? Why build up our Christ-esteem as opposed to our self-esteem?
Is there a difference? There can be.
Because so many relate self-esteem to “feelings of worth based on their skills, accomplishments, status, financial resources, or appearance it can lead a person to feel independent and prideful and to indulge in self-worship, which dulls our desire for God. James 4:6James 4:6
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6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore [the scripture] saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace to the humble.
WP-Bible plugin tells us that “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” If we only trust in our earthly resources, we will inevitably be left with a sense of worth based on pride. Jesus told us, “You also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, ‘We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty’” (Luke 17:10Luke 17:10
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10 Even so ye also, when ye shall have done all the things that are commanded you, say, We are unprofitable servants; we have done that which it was our duty to do.
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Does this mean our esteem is to be low? By no means!
The Bible tells us in Romans 12:3Romans 12:3
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3 For I say, through the grace that was given me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think as to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to each man a measure of faith.
WP-Bible plugin not to think more highly of ourselves than we ought but it does not say we are not to think highly of ourselves. Think about it. We are made in the Image of WHO….
I think you get the picture!
Why would God want us to think low of ourselves. To be humble has nothing to do with low self-esteem.
In one sense, low self-esteem is the opposite of pride. In another sense, low-self-esteem is a form of pride. Some people have low self-esteem because they want people to feel sorry for them, to pay attention to them, to comfort them. Low self-esteem can be a declaration of “look at me” just as much as pride. It simply takes a different route to get to the same destination, that is, self-absorption, self-obsession, and selfishness. Instead, we are to be selfless, to die to self, and to deflect any attention given to us to the great God who created and sustains us.
It is important to build Christ-esteem for quite a few reasons:
- It takes self totally out of the picture
- It places the emphasis on Christ as the Center of your Joy
- It allows you to see your worth in God’s eyes with humility and awe
- It gives you good grounding for making solid decision based on godly wisdom and logic
- It takes you to the point of wanting to be in the perfect will of God since your focus is properly aligned!
Your self-esteem needs to rest in Christ because the essence of who you are dwells with Him:
“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. 2Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. 4When Christ, who is your[a] life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.” (Colossians 3:1-4Colossians 3:1-4
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1 If then ye were raised together with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated on the right hand of God.
2 Set your mind on the things that are above, not on the things that are upon the earth.
3 For ye died, and your life is hid with Christ in God.
4 When Christ, [who is] our life, shall be manifested, then shall ye also with him be manifested in glory.
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When you place your esteem in the right place then you know that you will not become boastful or full of pride. You know that your intentions are in the right place and you are not doing anything for vain glory! You have confidence to move forward without fear or shame. You can move forward without being bothered by what others think about you.
Christ-esteem is what will drive you to move forward in courageous confidence in the call on your life!
Are you ready to build your Christ-esteem? How do you plan to do this?
LaTara
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That is fantastic Latara!!! I know you will do very well…you are already doing great with the program you were doing on your own, so this will just be ‘gravy’ so to speak:)
I know you can do it and you can live up to your Forty, Fit and Free theme:)
I am right there with you. I think accountability is one of the key ingredients. Holding each other accountable will give us the support to lose these extra pounds we have gained. I know you can do it!
Girl you KNOW I’m with you all the way! You can do this!! I’m doing FLQ too so jump on over after you’ve done day one, posted about it here and link up on my Day 1 post. Then make it a goal to post every day about it here on your site – it really does help. I missed Day 1 but made up for it by doing 2 days worth yesterday! Nothing like public accountability to help get ‘er done!
Love ya!
Yahoo! Another one of my favorite online business owners joining us in the challenge.
One thing I’m loving about this workout is that I can DO 10 minutes in the morning and 10 minutes in the afternoon. I won’t commit to doing an hour – ever. It seems like too much. 10 minutes? eh. No biggie.
Scott says that doing these bursts help boost your metabolism. Plus, he’s a really good guy. Have you listened to the interview that I did with him. If so, you already know that.
((hugs)) and high fives!