Take steps today to find out where it all went haywire. For this you may have to go all the way back to your roller skating, hop scotch days. However far back you need to go…GO! Fill in as much of the picture as possible and then move forward.

You cannot avoid pain or hurt. You cannot ignore that balance comes from dealing with the place where everything started going wrong in your life.

Once you have determined the place where havoc started to rear its ugly head, then you can stick a pen in it and move on. Take a look at your life today and determine how that part of your past plays into the imbalance you deal with now.

Let me give you a few examples of how the past may have hindered your attempt to balance.

• Your mother was a perfectionist and expected you to behave in the same manner. She wanted a perfectly made bed, a spotless room, and glasses that sparkled with no streaks. You grew up and determined that you would never be like her. So your home is a mess and you could care less if the kids’ room looks like a tornado ran through it. Your philosophy is “life it too short to be so darn neat”.
• You were teased about your looks as a child. You were called horrible names and it left deep scars. As you grew up you focused on always looking your best no matter what. You even went and got a few nips and tucks to help you feel more confident about you. However you are still feeling the pain of the past and it haunts your mind often. Will you ever be accepted by others?
• You were married to a person who never supported anything you did. He left you hi and dry often, telling you that what you were doing did not matter as much as what he did. He wanted all of you love and support and gave little in return. Now that you are divorced you find yourself clinging to people who need you all the time and you can figure why you still feel so alone.

These are just examples to help you to jog your memory. If they remind you of the trigger that led you to an imbalanced existence, then that is great. You will also noticed that I did not just use the physical part of an imbalanced life. I touched on the mental and emotional as well. Your trigger may also be spiritual. I know this one well because I was spiritually abused for 5 ½ to 6 years before God woke me up.

The point is that to go forward you must go backwards. Find that spot and work from there. Your path to balance is all about discovering where the imbalance started.

LaTara

LaTara Ham-Ying is a coach, consultant, and trainer helping women to brand, build, and be from the inside out for a better life and a more effective business. She works daily helping women transform their mindsets so that they experience heart change, spirit renewal and the ability to more in the direction of their destined path. For more information on LaTara's coaching options, visit her site today!

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